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Husbands and Headship: The Art of Dying

We live in a culture that views headship as abusive. In the Bible, however, headship is central to the stability of the home. Protestant and evangelical men need to see this headship in the context of the great covenant responsibilities that come with that role. The man who views his headship cavalierly views his role in the home with un-biblical eyes.

I have met many men who come to see the need for headship in the home and have made the necessary changes to their husbandry. Some of these men came to these convictions late in life, and therefore, the changes occurred too quickly; especially for their families. They went from rarely reading the Bible themselves to requiring family devotions with a 45-minute sermon. Dad went from barely feeding his family spiritually to stuffing his family. Children grow up dreading the evening “services”, and the wife, on the one hand, gives thanks to God for the change in her husband, while on the other, wondering if God misunderstood her prayers.

God knew all things, of course. The problem is sinners have made an art of over-reacting. Pastors need to watch out for these types and bring their enthusiasm to a proper balance.

But the Church is not suffering because of over-zealous husbands/ fathers; she is suffering for the lack of any zeal in husbands/fathers.

In particular, husbands are called to meet the needs of their wives. He is the provider, sustainer, and the one called by God to make his wife lovely. The wife is lovely when the husband beautifies her. Jesus is the head of the Church and part of his ascension task is to make his bride beautiful (Eph. 5). He comforts her with words of affirmation. He protects her from physical and spiritual abuse. He is her Boaz and David; a redeemer and king. The home serves as the castle. Pastors usually know when he enters a home whether it is being beautified or whether it has lost its beauty. I am not referring to neatness and tidiness; I am referring to the grace of a home. When that pastor leaves, he may have just left a pretty tomb with dead man’s bones. Grace makes a home, and the husband is the grace-giver. How he speaks, how he communicates, how he rebukes, how he seeks forgiveness; all these things demonstrate and encapsulate the type of headship he is embodying.

The husband is a resident theologian. He may not be a vocational theologian, but his actions and speech are the word and deed that his family will hear most often. When the husband lives a life of constant hypocrisy, his lectures will become dull and lose meaning. When his life demonstrates humility and the virtue of repentance, then his lectures, even the boring ones, will sink deeply into the fabric of the home.

The evangelical husband is a lover of truth. Truth keeps him from abusing his headship; truth keeps him from prioritizing his friends over his own family; truth keeps him from isolating himself from the Christian body; truth keeps him from turning headship into abuse. He must be, as Douglas Wilson once observed, “a small pebble that somehow by the grace of God pictures the Rock that is Christ.”[1]

The responsibility of being the head of the home is the responsibility of many, but the practice of some. Headship implies dying for your wife, and many prefer to see their spouse die than themselves. So men, let’s die together for our wives, and let’s show the world that death brings life.

[1] Wilson, Douglas. Reforming Marriage, 39.


God’s obligation comes from within himself

As the Ruth project continues, here is another quotation from the section on the righteousness of God:

God’s justice or God’s righteousness obligates him to redeem his people and reward their labors on behalf of his kingdom.  It’s because God is righteous that he must keep his covenant and, of course, that covenant is a covenant of grace with us.

So this obligation, then, does not come from outside, as if we had some intrinsic claim on God’s salvation or as if our works could somehow put God in debt to us.  Rather, God’s obligation comes from within himself, from his own determination to be trustworthy and to make good on his covenant pledge, no matter what.

Interview at Trinity Talk on my new book “The Trinitarian Father”

The Trinitarian Father: An Interview with Uri Brito

On this episode, Jarrod Richie interviews co-host, Uri Brito, on his new book The Trinitarian Father. Pastor Brito gives an overview of the book as well as tell us what readers should expect as they begin to read the book.

Purchase The Trinitarian Father here or e-mail uriesou@gmail.com.

Another Review of The Trinitarian Father by Kevin Johnson

Uri Brito establishes his point at the outset and drives it home throughout the book: Earthly fathers are to imitate God the Father. And this only makes sense because the God of heaven and earth is Triune. He doesn’t exercise his will and display his attributes in a vacuum. He is a culture. He is a civilization. He is a family. He is a Father to an actual Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. We are made in that image.

Every chapter is anchored by and revolves around Scripture. Uri takes us from the Garden to the Gospel – the Gospel that turns the hearts of fathers to their children, and the hearts of children to their fathers. We see in Genesis that God is a benevolent Father, preparing Adam for blessing and life. Isaiah reminds us that we are worshipers and imitators at our core. We will become what we worship. Solomon reminds us of our royalty. Every father will equip his son to rule – to be a dawning sun on a cloudless morning or to be smoke in the eyes. Luke gives us Wisdom made flesh. The Son of man increasing in wisdom and stature. Our sons, if we are like The Father, will be like The Son.

The Trinitarian Father is a great introduction to the topic of fatherhood. It teases the appetite. While it is a short work, the author has managed to cover a lot of ground. Uri’s brevity is adorned with great depth. Almost every sentence could be (and should be!) put on an index card for routine reflection. The book sets forth both a theological framework for fatherhood and practical hooks upon which every father would do well to hang his cap.

The Trinitarian Father makes you think; it brings you back to Scripture; it convicts you; it will make you shift in your chair. Ultimately, the book calls you to look into the heavens, see your Father, and remember that he’s done for you all that He requires of you. I heartily recommend this book. –Kevin Johnson

Purchase a copy by e-mailing the author at uriesou@gmail.com.